The Brain Protects Your Identity, Even When It's Wrong!

Why is it so difficult to change, even when we know our thinking isn’t helping us? In this conversation, Dr Peter Cliff and Kieren Douglas explore Carl Rogers’ concept of self-structure (or self-concept) and how the beliefs we develop about ourselves influence the way we interpret everyday experiences. From childhood conditioning to adult relationships, we discuss why we often reject experiences that don’t fit our identity, how this creates incongruence, and what it really means to become more psychologically flexible. Using practical examples, including interpreting social cues, fear of being judged, and delivering training, we look at how a rigid identity can keep us stuck, and how reflection, openness, and acceptance can gradually reshape the way we see ourselves. Whether you’re interested in person-centred counselling, psychology, personal development, or understanding yourself on a deeper level, this conversation offers a practical way to apply Carl Rogers’ ideas in everyday life. If you enjoy conversations about psychology, counselling, and human behaviour, consider subscribing for more discussions like this.